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The ladies' home journal
Vol. XX, No. 7 (June, 1903)

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The Ladies' Home Journal for June 190o3
The Lady from Philadelphia
Su~s eakTeLa.dysfruits Phriarriat whatr is wist  r ito iterione." -The 1Peterlain Parpte-
mutgv  hi  jmesadadess  orsodnswsig
is carried by men whose lives dIe-
penld Oil tinme. Trhe Elgin watchi
for women, though smaller itsn
size, is ideitical in accuracy.
An illutrated history
of the watch set free
Elgina, Ill.
For Small Investors
I f yoilhate a thouitsanoil thu aes tirnroe -idle
cIr onsatisfactorily invested- titr COUPON
), posi t uCeti fcaic, dues March 1,1908, guaran-
tens you 4 per cent.As sate and pays heter
tnterest thao a Government Bond. Securnd by
$5,340,000 of capital and soeplus. lnterest
taid qiartert- Maeoh, Juine, September,
Deccembere. Witbdrawal at any interest
period, at 60 days' notice. Price, par and
interest feom March 1. We wselcome
smaller sums in oor savings drpaet-
Marqua Go-Carts-'
1903 Styles
E OR abys sake d onupo
the  ny g.r peo d
pm, of Mi lssi siifRier
Western pgiot. eCtiol
1 11U 0 -ohA rbt. GOt'rITr or
De at e tA, Ctrutsofatt  n, .
jewely  trae,  Ifyour'ecefros  not sell
E. C HOE &CO.Mauatrers ie
201Souh Slin Steet Sracse,$N.95u.
<  ~  A  S THIS    nsimber of THE
I is to be especially devoted
tloouilcetan  their interests I
shdleibost taltoetemoftei
hl or  etins-forourthfir
--    dutty is always that which lies
I  nearest. Every girl admits the
importance of observing the
N'    social conventions toward out-
siders. My daily packet of
letters is an evidence of a wide-
spread anxiety among the young
people to be found lacking in no respect in this
regard; hblt sturely the courtesy and consideration
whicho we habitually - almost instinctively - showy
to strangers is, at least, as incuimbent upon us
toward those whom we love and upon whom our
happiness largely depends.
T HERE are too many households in which ucn
trolled irritability, rough speech, the readiness
to give trouible, the satisfying of self thoughtless of
the claims of others, interference and criticism
that exasperate by their freedom, mar the happiness
of home life, and drive its inmates to oultside sources
for all the enjoyments of life.
A ART from love itself there is no greater factor
in producing harmony in the household than
the observance of the ruiles of good-breeding.
The yountg girls of the family are the ones to set
the example. To them we naturally look for all
that is gracious and winning, and to them let me
say :XYour part in the hotusehold life is to make
every member of the family happier for your pres-
ence ito the home.
BE AT least as polite to " youtr own" as though
Bgiests were present. Stuppress your own temopta-
tion to conmplaint and faultfinding, look pleasant,
speak cheerily, force yourself to be entertaining or
at least responsive.-whetlter yout feel like it or
not. Be ready with smiles and sympathy, little
services and unselfish ministries. Talk only of
that which turns the thoughts of others irnto pleas-
ant channels. Be blind to a blunder or mistake
nmade by another.
Give coulrteouos attention to the conversation of
every one, and if father tells a story that YOUi think
shsould be relegated to the dignified retirement
appropriate to old age, or if he is a bit prosy in
giving information, do not grutdge him a polite
hearing. Think of all that you owe to him and
hear the momentary annoyance rather than subject
him to tise embarrassment of feeling " snubbed'' in
thce presence of others. Let mother be the one to
retopind 1im, if she choose, titat he has told the
tory before. If that dear lady seem at times to be
a little behind the age in her views of things, or if
,he be not as qtiick to see the point of a story as some
if the younger ones, do not let her feel for a moment
thoat to you she has seemed dull or antiquated.
COURTESY compels a retulrn of courtesy. A
Cservant, speaking to her former mistress of
her new place in a family noted for their unity,
remoarked, O h, it's them is the lovely peoplel
They treat one another just like company ! "
A UNCONTROLLED voice is always rude and
A the exhibition of tenmper an unpardonable dis-
coulrtesy. To know that temper may be controlled,
and that instantly, we need only imagine the person
tinder excitement brought suddenly into thce pres-
ence of some friend whose good opinion is valtted.
Tihe truth is that we cou~nt upon the love of the
home folk to stand the strain of our fasults, ouir
tempers and tantrums, bult where the effect is not
to lessen affection it wounds it brtutally.
Do toot think that I am claiming too much for
etiquette and confusing it with dolly. According to
m oy conception of the word, etiqolette is related to
,or behavior under all circumstances. It is the
outward sign of an inward grace, perhaps, but ifs
habitual observance often compels right feelings.
W HEN a girl holds a door open f or her mother
to pass first; wheto she withdraws her atten-
tion from book or work to acknowledge by a smile
that lady's entrance into the room, instead of ignor-
ing it, or lays aside her occupation uintil assured
that she is not wanted; when she is observant of her
mother's comfort and qtiick to volunteer little serv-
ices, we know that it is inspired by the love, respect
and consideration for her mother that constitute her
duty. Etiquette is its graceful expression, its tact-
ful evidence, and the sense of duty insst have little
vigor that gives no evidence and does not seek
iexpression. It imposes more, however, than mere
courteous attention.
IF YOU saw an elderly wonoan carrying a buirden
Iand looking somewhat weary, wile a youinger
wonoan -perhaps her daughter - truldged at her
side, amulsing herself by gathering flowers or bear-
ing boot a light packet, you woulid recognize her as
a youcng person of extremely bad manners, which
wvould be the expression of selfishness - something
that is always repullsive.
T HE profession of dauighter is tlte highoest, the
happiest, tloe noblest tltat a young wroman can
follow, until she exchanges it for that of wife and
mother, for which it is the best of all preparationos.
This is thoe time to whicho your parents hsave been
looking forward during the years of trining while
giving yout every advantage that they could afford.
Yost say, perhaps, "i Mother will not let me help
her. She prefers to keep house herself.'' Tlat is
because she fears that yout may be thouightless, care-
less or extravagant. Show her that she may depend
upon you by doing thoroughly and well whatever
you are intrusted witho, and she will be glad to yield
to yost little by little the guidance and direction
of the household with fond pride. A fresh mind
brought to bear on housekeepinig problems may
find most attractive and novel soluitionos.
AOH E    sin against etiqulette and the princi-
ples upon whoicho good manners are based is tihe
freedom with which the young persons of the family
find fault.
It is fair to suppose in this counrthtbte
time thoe children are grown tlhe parents have
reached the point of greatest financial prosperity.
The children, therefore, have the benefit of the best
tloat their parents have known. The elders at-e
naturally disappointed and sometimes resertfiti
when the children carp and criticise, as thottghi
the family table and mode of living were not up to
their standard-they who have supplied all being
jttdged by those whoo have done nothing.
Democratic notions of equality have penetrated
into homes, but it is a distinct toss to t he young
folk -who hoave forgotten the habit of looking up to
their parents as to superior beings, to be loved,
trusted and obeyed. This attitude is the best
rehearsal for one's reverent relation to God.
W   E ACKNOWLEDGE it as a courteous obliga-
tion to express thanks for atoy service done for
us. Your father lays down his life for you and the
other dear ones day by day, year after year. His
inspiration to unwearied perseverance has largely
been his desire for youir advantage. Thank him by
loving, daulghterly attentions. Humor his r" little
ways." If unpunctuality, or tite use of slang, or
any special thsing irritate bins, regard it as an
obligation to avoid it. Make his ione-coming a
pleasure and his evenings a reward for laboriotus
days, as far as iln you lics.
NYOUR    intercoulrse wsih yottr brothoers and
ses respect a closed door. Never askc ques-
tions that you think may be unwillinogly answered.
Avoid stock subjects of dispoutation.
Be ptunctiliouis in prefacing every requlest with
please,"i and acknowledging every trifl ing service
with" thank yos." Laulgh with, but never at,
others. Be quick to apologize if yost have hulrt
any one's feelings, and never let the stin set without
"making up"1 if there has beeno a disagreement.
People are usuially sensiive aboott tiseir clothoes; be
therefore tactful in criticism. Regard quiarreling
as the height of vulgarity. Do not betray to out-
siders anything whatever that can in any way reflect
at all upon the members of your family.
If with servants yost are courteous as well as kitnd
you will secure their loyal devotion. They like to
serve" a real lady.''
In short, be a well-bred gentlewoman at home as
well as abroad.
A D now, to indemnoify yost for listening to my
9"little "rpreachment,'' let me tell you of an
entertainment ito which actors and autdience both
take part.
A series of tableauis, illustrating the titles of
books, to be gttessed by tlhe auldience, requires but
little preparationo, few stage" properties,t" and is
sure to be productive of mulch fun for everybody
The audience is supplied with cards with pencils
attached, whcere, upon nuimbered lines, they chron-
icle their guesses at what each tableau in turn
represents, signing their names at the end.
The most successfuil guesser should receive some
simple but appropriate prize.
THEcuirtain rises perhaps uipon a Puritan maiden
T nsober gray, with close muslin cap, sitting at
her spinning-wheel. She is intended to represent
Miss Alcott's "~ Old-Fashioned Girl.''
The next discovers a typical old maid, a packet
of letters, yellowed with age, and a faded ribbon in
her lap. One hand holds a letter, the other a
daguerreotype at which she gazes wistfullly. Tiss
is to illustrate "r Lookitog Backward,"r by Bellamy.
" ice Versa," by Anstey, may be given by two
or three persons wearing hats, coats and skirts
'hinod side 'fore.''
"Maclame Butterfly," by John Luther Long,
may be charmingly sulggested by a lady in J apanese
costumie at her toilette; her maid adding pins or
flowvers to her coiffure.
If a young man standing upon a step-ladder1
wreathe tloe chandelier with greenoery the sugges-
tion of Christmas will mislead the atudience. A girlI
holds the ladder as thouigh to steady it, while he
steps down, and the clever ones may guess r" The
Descent of Man," by Darwin.
to the Rockies
this summer will be
more popular than
ever. Many touirists
prefer the
Chicago, Milwaukee
& St. Paul
Union Pacific Line
Low rates fromn
Chicago to Colo-
rado and back.
A postal card wAvill Ibri ng
complete information.
E. L. LOMAX           F. A. MILLE
Gec. Pass. & Ticket Alt, ......eIa las..nger Agent
Union Pacific R. it.  Chicago, Milwaukee & St. Paul Ry.
Onoaha, Neb.            Chicago
1000 PLANS
like Mr. Keitlis  tesigris in  Tho,,  c I  v- /ittc. Ix.t ",
Mlo., Pilgriat. etc., have been sh- 0 in KEITH'S MAGAZINE,
devoted  to  the  Ii oTue, its buiiiding, de-t tn  otor   rdfiivliitr.
10 new studies monthly. 10c. copy, Slo00 pear; foreign $1.50.
AN IOWA HOME -This is ..nenrphilef hoa' we are
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countries. We can save for yttii y geting the lest possil le
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Baby Carriage Factory
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